By Roy Burner (Minister of the Gospel)


The assertive woman is aggressive in nature, opinionated in her forwardness, with an energetic pursuit towards desired results, often at the expense of others. There is a movement today in which the assertive woman mentality is very much prevalent.  

Scripture reveals: Your tongue devises mischief's (or plans destruction); like a sharp razor, working deceitfully.  You love evil more than good; and lying rather than to speak righteousness (Psalm 52:2-3).  While this is addressed towards manhood; it certainly goes beyond the masculine sense, as womanhood exercises more dominance. 

The Assertive Woman

The characteristics of a assertive woman are aggressive, domineering, opinionated, and combative.  One who is fond of contention, given to angry debate, provoking dispute, and quarrelsome.

Scripture reveals: It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman (Proverbs 21:19).  One who is identified as always scolding, with an angry disposition, provoking anger.  A Bible commentary noted: Solitude with little is better than much with a contentious woman.

A Contentious Woman

Scripture reveals: A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike (Proverbs 27:15).  A Bible commentary noted:  If the rain is troublesome and uncomfortable; as in a rainy day, a man cannot go out with any pleasure; and so is a contentious woman, that is continually scolding in his presence.

When one looks on the demeanor of the assertive woman it seems like such is her continued appearance; as putting on the same makeup daily.  There are those interviewed by the media, that are of the same makeup; being resentful and hateful. 

Quarrelsome Stormy Language

Scripture reveals: It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling (or contentions) woman in a wide house (Proverbs 21:9).  The roof of houses in Judea was a place where one might retire for solitude. 

A Bible commentary noted: It is better to be in a corner of such a roof alone, often exposed to scorching heat, to blustering winds, to thunder storms and showers of rain, than with a contentious woman in a house who is always noisy and quarrelsome, with stormy language.

This statement certainly puts icing on the cake when one thinks of those who fit such a category!  This could fit men as well; but in this particular case, it is the assertive woman who is being addressed.

Biblical Example of the
Assertive Woman

A biblical example of a assertive woman was Jezebel, the wife of King Ahab.  Scripture reveals:  There was none like unto Ahab, which did sell himself to work wickedness, in the sight of the Lord, whom Jezebel his wife stirred up (or incited) (1 Kings 21:25).

Jezebel, and her wickedness, in her role as the assertive woman, came to an end when another was appointed king over Israel.  The end would come to the house of Ahab, to avenge the blood of the servants of God, at the hand of Jezebel, his wife.

At the king's command Jezebel was thrown out of the palace window to her death.  Scripture reveals: And when they went to bury her: they found no more of her than the skull, and the feet, and the palms of her hands (2 Kings 9:35).

Assertive Personage
Male or Female

The assertive person; whether male or female, has become the characteristic of many who seek to maintain the ungodliness of man.  We are seeing the advancement of the assertive personage through mainstream and social media; along with individuals who seek to promote their own agenda.

It was the assertive woman who was responsible for prayer being taken out of school; opening the door for all kinds of ungodly instruction in its place.  It was the assertive personage of others who opened the door to legally kill an unborn child in its mother's womb. 

It was the assertive personage of others who allowed the homosexuality lifestyle to become acceptable; gay marriage to be instituted by a judicial ruling; and the transgender movement to come into existence.

Opposite of the
Assertive Woman

There are women who speak out; in a respectful manner, voicing their opinions on subjects that are sometimes heated topics; without entering into the characteristics of the assertive woman.

Scripture speaks of godly women of propriety and moderation; which becomes women professing godliness with good works, professing characteristics that reveal the inner nature of a godly woman; that of a meek and quiet spirit, which  is precious in the sight of God....(1 Peter 3:4).

The assertive woman of today has no such bearing but is overbearing in her mannerism and conduct.  She is boisterous and demanding in her demeanor.  Character assassination is unimportant to her if the end justifies the means.

A Virtuous Woman

Scripture asks: Who can find a virtuous woman?  For her price (or worth) is far above rubies (Proverbs 31:10).  This is a description of a wife but could certainly apply to all women who have such characteristics.  Some of these are:  Trustworthy, industrious, thrifty, enterprising, willing to work hard, long hours if needed to accomplish her goal, to do monotonous work if needed.

Compassionate, prepared for the future; not swayed by circumstances; a woman of God, praiseworthy, and demonstrating the principles of wisdom.  The virtuous woman would be welcome in any circle which recognizes such virtues; having not the characteristics of the assertive woman.


Womanhood can be found in two categories; that of a assertive woman, or a virtuous woman honored for her godly deportment.  The assertive woman is noticeable because of her aggressiveness, domineering nature, and opinionated in her defense of what is important to her.  In so doing she is given to angry; argumentative, combative, and quarrelsome. 

The virtuous woman stands for her beliefs; but does not display the characteristics of the assertive woman.  Her godly stance amply reveals her willingness to be a living example of what God considers precious in His sight; that of a meek and quiet spirit. 

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