By Roy Burner - Minister of the Gospel
The assertive woman is aggressive in nature, opinionated in her forwardness, with an energetic pursuit of desired results, often at the expense of others. Scripture reveals: Your tongue devises mischief's; like a sharp razor, working deceitfully (Psalm 52:2).
The characteristics of a assertive woman are: Being aggressive, domineering, opinionated, combative, and contentious. Someone who is fond of contention, given to angry debate, provoking dispute, and quarrelsome.
Scripture reveals: It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman (Proverbs 21:19). Such is identified as one who always scolding, with an angry disposition, and provoking anger.
Scripture reveals that a continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike (Proverbs 27:15). A commentary pointed out: If the rain is troublesome and uncomfortable; as in a rainy day, a man cannot go out with any pleasure; and so is a contentious woman, that is continually scolding in his presence.
When one looks on the demeanor of the assertive woman it seems like such is her continued appearance; as one who puts on the same makeup on a daily basis. There are those being interviewed by the media, that are of the same makeup regardless of the subject content; resentful, and oftentimes even hateful.
Scripture reveals that it is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop than with a contentions woman in a wide house (Proverbs 21:9). A commentary noted: The roof of houses in Judea was a place where one might retire for solitude.
It is better to be in a corner of such a roof alone, often exposed to scorching heat, to blustering winds, to thunder storms and showers of rain, than with a contentious woman in a wide house who is always noisy and quarrelsome, with her stormy language.
This statement certainly puts icing on the cake when one thinks of those who fit into such a category! This could fit some men; but in this particular case, it is the assertive woman who is addressed.
A biblical example of a assertive woman was Jezebel of the Old Testament; the wife of King Ahab. Scripture reveals that there were none like Ahab, which did sell himself to work wickedness, in the sight of the Lord, whom Jezebel his wife incited (1 Kings 21:25).
Jezebel, and her wickedness came to an end when another was appointed king over Israel and anointed by the prophet Elisha. The end would come to the house of Ahab, to avenge the blood of the servants of God, at the hand of Jezebel (1 Kings 9:7).
At the king's command Jezebel was thrown out of the palace window to her death. When they went to bury her: they found no more of her than the skull, and the feet, and the palms of her hands (1 Kings 9:35).
The assertive personage; whether male or female, has become the characteristic of many who seek to maintain the ungodliness of man. We are seeing the advancement of the assertive personage through media coverage.
It was the assertive woman who was responsible for prayer being taken our of schools; opening the door for all kinds of ungodly instruction/happenings in its place. It was the assertive personage of others who opened the door to legally kill an unborn child in its mother's womb. It was the assertive personage of others who allowed the homosexuality lifestyle to become acceptable; gay marriage to be instituted by a judicial ruling; and the transgender movement to come into existence.
There are those who speak out; in a respectful, not hateful manner, voicing their opinions on subjects that are sometimes heated topics; without entering into the characteristics of the assertive woman.
Scripture speaks of godly women of propriety and moderation; professing godliness with good works (1 Timothy 2:9-10). Professing characteristics that reveal the inner nature of a godly woman. Scripture brings out that a woman with a meek and quiet spirit is precious in the sight of God (1 Peter 3:4).
The assertive woman of today has no such bearing but rather is overbearing in her mannerism and conduct. She is out to make herself heard; boisterous in her mannerism and demanding in her nature. Character assassination is unimportant to her if the end justifies the means.
Scripture speaks of the qualifications of a virtuous or godly woman, in saying: Who can find a virtuous woman? For her worth is far above rubies (Proverbs 31:10). The description is of a wife but could certainly apply to all women who have such characteristics. Some of these are: trustworthy, industrious, thrifty, enterprising, willing to work hard, long hours if needed to accomplish her goal, to do monotonous work if needed.
Compassionate, prepared for the future; not swayed by circumstances; a woman of God, praiseworthy, and demonstrating the principles of wisdom (Proverbs 31:11-31). The virtuous woman would be welcomed in any circle that recognizes such virtues; having not embraced the characteristics of a assertive woman.
Womanhood in America can be found in two categories; that of a assertive woman, proud as the daughters of Zion (Isaiah 3:17-24), or a virtuous woman honored for her godly deportment (Proverbs 31:30).
The assertive woman is more noticeable because of her aggressiveness, domineering nature, and opinionated in her defense of what is important to her. In doing so she is given to anger; argumentative, combative, and quarrelsome.
While the virtuous woman stands for her beliefs; but does not display the characteristics of the assertive woman. Her godly stance amply reveals her willingness to be a living example of what God considers precious in His sight; that of a meek and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4).