The assertive woman is aggressive in nature, opinionated in forwardness, with an energetic pursuit towards desired results, often at the expense of others. There is a movement today in which the assertive woman mentality is very much in evidence.  

The Psalmist wrote: Your tongue devises mischief's (plans destruction); like a sharp razor, working deceitfully.  You love evil more than good; and lying rather than to speak righteousness. You love devouring words, O you deceitful tongue (Psalm 52:2-4).  While this is addressed towards manhood; it certainly goes beyond the masculine sense, when womanhood exercises dominance. 

The Assertive Woman

The characteristics of a assertive woman is one who is domineering, opinionated, combative, fond of contention, given to angry debate, provoking dispute, and quarrelsome.  

Scripture reveals: It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman (Proverbs 21:19); one that is identified as having a scolding and angry disposition.  It was noted that solitude with little is better than with a contentious woman.

A Contentious Woman

Scripture reveals: A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike (Proverbs 27:15).  It was noted that if the rain is troublesome and uncomfortable; as in a rainy day, a man cannot go out with any pleasure; and so is a contentious woman, that is continually scolding in his presence.

When one looks on the demeanor of the assertive woman it seems like such is her continual appearance; as putting on the same makeup day every day.  There are those in the limelight that are always of the same makeup: Resentful, glaringly so, who are  filled with hated towards any opposition even if the truth is being presented. 

Quarrelsome and Stormy

Scripture reveals: It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling (contentions) woman in a wide house (Proverbs 21:9).  The roof of houses in Judea was a place where one might retire for solitude. 

It was noted that it is better to be in a corner of such a roof alone, often exposed to scorching heat, blustering winds, thunderstorms and showers of rain, than with a contentious woman in a house who is always noisy and quarrelsome, having stormy language.

This statement certainly puts icing on the cake when one thinks of those who fit into such a category!  While this description could fit men as well; in this particular case it is the assertive woman who is being addressed.

Biblical Example of the
Assertive Woman


A biblical example of a assertive woman was Jezebel, the wife of King Ahab.  Scripture reveals:  There was none like unto Ahab, which did sell himself to work wickedness, in the sight of the Lord, whom Jezebel his wife stirred up (incited) (1 Kings 21:25).

Wicked Jezebel, played her role as the assertive woman, which came to an end when Jehu was appointed king over Israel; who was told of the Lord: You shall smite (strike down) Ahab your master, that I may avenge the blood of my servants the prophets, and the blood of all the servants of the Lord, at the hand of Jezebel (2 Kings 9:7).  And the dogs shall eat Jezebel to the portion (vicinity) of Jezreel, and there shall none be to bury her (2 Kings 9:10).

At Jehu's command Jezebel was thrown out of the palace window to her death.  Scripture reveals: And when they went to bury her: they found no more of her than the skull, and the feet, and the palms of her hands.  Wherefore they came, and told him (Jehu). And he said, This is the word of the Lord, which he spoke by his servant Elijah, saying, In the portion of Jezreel shall dogs eat the flesh of Jezebel (2 Kings 9:35-36).

Assertive Personage
Male or Female

The assertive person; whether male or female, has become the characteristic of many who seek to maintain the ungodliness of man. We are seeing the advancement of such assertive personage through mainstream and social media; along with individuals who seek to promote ungodly agenda.

It was the assertive woman who was responsible for prayer being taken out of school.  It was the assertive personage of others who opened the door to legally kill an unborn child in its mother's womb. It was the assertive personage of others who allowed the homosexuality lifestyle to become acceptable; gay marriage to be instituted by a judicial ruling; and the transgender movement to come into existence.

Opposite of the
Assertive Woman


There are women who speak out; in a respectful manner, voicing their opinions on subjects that are sometimes heated topics; without entering into the characteristics of the assertive woman.

Apostle Peter speaks of godly women of propriety and moderation; which becomes women professing godliness with good works, professing characteristics that reveal the inner nature of a godly woman; that of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price (precious) in the sight of God (1 Peter 3:4).

The assertive woman of today has no such bearing but is overbearing in her mannerism and conduct.  She is boisterous and demanding often using character assassination as a means to root out any opposition, uncaring to its damaging effect so long as the end justifies the means!

A Virtuous Woman

Scripture asks: Who can find a virtuous woman (of valor)?  For her price (worth) is far above rubies. The heart of her husband does safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil (lack of gain) (Proverbs 31:10-11).  This is a description of a wife but could certainly apply to women who have such characteristics: Trustworthy, industrious, enterprising, willing to work hard to accomplish such a goal.

Compassionate, prepared for the future; not swayed by circumstances; a woman of God, praiseworthy, and demonstrating the principles of wisdom.  The virtuous woman would be welcome in any circle which recognizes such virtues; having not the characteristics of the assertive woman.


Womanhood can be found in two categories; that of a assertive woman, or a virtuous woman honored for her godly deportment.  The assertive woman is noticeable because of her aggressiveness, domineering nature, and opinionated in her defense of what is important to her.  In so doing she is given to angry; being argumentative, combative, and quarrelsome. 

The virtuous woman stands for her beliefs; but does not display the characteristics of the assertive woman.  Her godly stance amply reveals her willingness to be a living example of what God considers precious in His sight; that of a meek and quiet spirit (as previously mentioned). 

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